Tuesday, July 8, 2008

DB's Daddy-O

DB's dad died a couple of hours ago.

We expected this because he has been in full-on dementia for some time and very very frail for the past several weeks. When we were up there for the wedding a week ago, he was almost comatose after being in the hospital with pneumonia. Expecting it doesn't make it any easier.

I never knew Daddy-O until after he had started to really decline...but I know him. I know him from loving his son. I know him because half of my true love, DB, is him. I know him from loving the family of which he was (and is) the patriarch.

The past year or so, Daddy-O has been trying to find his way "home". He'd wander away from his house looking for "home". He'd call here looking for his mom. He got mad ("goddamn it, I want to go home!"). And now...he's home.

Thank you, Daddy-O, for giving the gift of DB, of the PDs, of all the grandkids and of your amazing family to me. I love you for that. I really do.

6 comments:

Vickie said...

You were up there a week ago for the wedding (not funeral).

Tell DB that my thoughts are with him.

And yes, finding one's way home is/can be a good thing.

My mom's husband is thankful that with everything else that is wrong - kidney's slowly failing, no legs, insilin shots every day, heart problems, etc - that his mind is still there.

Second he is glad that his eye sight is still there. He still reads about a book a day.

It is nearly a full time job keeping track of what he has read and getting new books from the library. My mom actually keeps track in a 3 ring binder.

And when one goes - the second one tends to go quickly too - not always but often.

Our thoughts to both of you and the rest of the family at this time.

L.G. said...

Tell DB I'm thinking of him. I'm so sorry about him but I'm glad he made his way home.

(You wrote that so eloquently, too.)

Helen said...

Thanks, Vickie...I changed the first paragraph to "wedding". :-)

And thanks to both for your kind words...DB and I really appreciate it.

Cindy154 said...

i am sorry to hear about Daddy-O. My comfort goes out to you and DB and the family. He found his way home but he is missed. I hope you guys are doing ok. Take care.

Cindy154 said...

i am sorry to hear about Daddy-O. My comfort goes out to you and DB and the family. He found his way home but he is missed. I hope you guys are doing ok. Take care.

Grumpy Chair said...

Sorry to read about DB's daddy-o.

I'll be thinking of you, DB and his family.