Creeping down

It is nice to be back reporting losses every Friday again. I am down a little over a pound this week, which is not too bad considering the Martini Night the other night. I am doing The Drastic a little different this time considering I have more time to lose and less to lose: I am being a bit more liberal (read: beer is allowed) on weekends, but still very strict during the week. The weekday evenings are very very challenging still...I struggle and I am almost always hungry in the evenings. But I'm doing it. I'm thinking that maybe this is the way I can maintain once I get down...very strict during the week and less on the weekends. We'll see. Exercise, of course, remains constant.

To answer Vickie's last comment: my friend does have people to take care of him. In fact, his soon-t0-be-ex-wife will be handling those duties during the surgery time (mid-May). I offered to go up (he lives in a state north of me), but he thinks he will be fine (and DB is looking at hernia surgery sometime in mid-May too, so it's a good thing 'cause he's my first priority, of course!). He also has a VERY good attitude: he said to me "after the surgery, the cancer will be GONE. Something else is going to have to kill me.". ;-) I am hoping that I can convince him to fly down here this summer for a little vacation and fun...

As to his marriage, I think it's kind of a mystery (as these things sometimes are). I know they have had trouble for a few years (drifting apart, she's out of town on business a lot, etc.). And, frankly, I am not horribly surprised at this. As he admitted to me the other day, she doesn't seem to be the kind of person who really is self-reflective and, therefore, may not be able to really articulate her feelings. That is a huge problem in a relationship, I think. And my friend is quite the opposite (although sometimes I think he is too good to be true in his acting all grown-up and mature...I need him to come down here and make him get good and angry about this!). I told him that I can't be around her. I can't forgive her (I blame most of this on her...HE doesn't, however). I reminded him of a boyfriend I met at their wedding who I was with for a few intense months afterward, totally in love, and who broke my heart. I reminded him that he and another male friend of mine who were friends with that boyfriend NEVER forgave the ex-boyfriend (I am now very good friends with that ex-boyfriend...we talk all the time). It's easier to forgive people who hurt YOU than people who hurt those you love.

DB and I have an uncharacteristically quiet weekend ahead (so far). Tonight we'll go out to dinner then to a (music) show in our neighborhood that looks good. Tomorrow I need to take my mom to her bank to sort some things out, then I will go to the gym and then...NOTHING planned. Luxury! :-) Sunday, so far, we have absolutely NOTHING planned (although I hope we can take some time for more training for me in DB's business...he's trying to teach me some stuff so I can help out a little more and it's really interesting!).

I'm hoping maybe maybe to get some boogie-boarding in...cross your fingers!! :-)